When does a guy become your boyfriend?

[Exotica08]

I've only had one boyfriend in my entire 24 years, but I'm still confused when it comes to boys. I went on my third date with a guy yesterday and he invited me to go to Vegas with him in 2 weeks. He also wants to go to my family's annual camping trip this year which is in July. He kisses me goodbye, but we haven't held hands or anything yet. He does squeeze my thigh when we sit next to eachother though. But I like him, I think he likes me as well, but when does it become official?

[becca123]

Without asking him outright the "what are we" question, you may need to let some more time pass. Three dates is getting to the point that you can ask him comfortably, but if you are anything like me, that conversation makes you feel awkward. I can tell you looking in from the outside if you've been on three dates and he isn't pushing for sex, you are on a good track.

Listen to how he refers to you; when introducing you to others does he specify "my girlfriend?". Do/does his friends/family know about you? Are your plans implied for the week/weekend? These are some good ways to see if you are turning a corner. The fact he h

I never had the official talk but it became gradually apparent after a month by his actions. He made sure I knew he hid online profile, he bought me flowers on our one month " anniversary, ". He spoke of me to his friends and family on the phone in front of me, he referred to me as his girlfriend about three weeks in. He had my schedule planned out for the times we would meet up. He also acted playfully jealous over males that I knew (never really so). Pet names were common by the third week, and his texting habits were reliable and unchanging from the start.

It has been three months now and we never had The Talk, but I knew by the end of the first month that we had evolved into a relationship just by his actions. I never had to play the " does he or doesn't he" game because his actions were crystal clear. It sounds like this guy is giving you some clues. Pay attention. :)

There are any number if folks who will tell you to Just Ask Him. I am admittedly too cowardly for that, especially only three dates in. If he isn't making you guess his feelings, you are off to a great start. A few more dates and either it will be clear or you can comfortably and subtly ask him. For now, try to enjoy this as it evolves and don't be in a huge hurry to label it :).

[Exotica08]

Lol yea I'm too afraid to ask. I feel like a teenage girl sometimes because I don't know the basics about guys. I'll see him next weekend and I guess we'll see what he says.

[Ayitey]

How are you doing my dear?

[Anonymous]

For me, I just never brought it up ( I had intentions to at some point of course!) and then one date about 6 weeks in we were walking and holding hands and discussing the different ways to hold hands and he out of the blue said "I like holding my girlfriend's hand like this" and then we looked at each other and said "I guess this is a thing"! 3 dates, you're just seeing someone at that point. On the way to girlfriend/boyfriend status. But, if it's real, you will know where you stand. He's either going to bring it up or you would mutually discuss it (which you do when you're comfortable enough... to me I think that's how you know, if you feel like you can say something and he's not going to freak, then you're ready to be bf/gf)

[parisfox]

That doesn't sound like it's official yet, but he definitely likes you! I find that when they start making plans about the future with you it means they're serious. You guys should have a talk about that. If you doesn't ask you to be his girlfriend and you want him to be your boyfriend, then you ask him!

[fiego]

@Exotica08 It definitely sounds like he is interested in you and in the near future you will officially be dating. My suggestion is to wait a week or two and then casually bring up the question "what are we" and see what he says. Good news is that it sounds like he really likes you... congrats.

[Exotica08]

I think so too lol. Thanks :)

[chrisbigman]

You need to talk to him to get the answer. If you think you two are considered dating, then confirm it with him. After all, it's not me you're dating, are you?

[musiclover1359]

yeah don't expect a guy to become your boyfriend after 3 dates. I have been seeing a guy for 4 months and we're still not boyfriend and girlfriend.

[Exotica08]

4 months? What the heck is taking so long?

[musiclover1359]

don't ask me, I don't know

[Ayitey]

Hello