I went out on a coffee date with a guy I had liked for many years We ended up spending four hours together and he texted me the remainder of the night. Now comes three days later and my friends goad me into texting him because I had heard nothing from him since...I text him he replies he's sick and blah blah blah he will text me soon...now another three days nothing and I'm honestly hurt mainly because I texted him first so I look the fool and because I liked a guy for years for nothing...i pretty much know he doesn't like me and its obvious but why tell a girl you will talk to her and then just not?
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The guy didn't want to pursue a relationship, so instead of being like "Never speak to me again" he is saying sweet ways of letting you off "Ill talk to you some other time" "See ya around" - without actually applying the desire to be around you.
This guy isn't a coward, he just didn't see the relationship going anywhere that he wanted. This is what we call maturity. Rather than breaking you down and lowering your self-esteem, he removed himself from the picture.
I dislike the fact that he may have lied about being sick and making excuses for himself. When I really think about the situation, it seems like he wants to keep harmony at the expense of lieing - versus - telling the truth and feeling pain or anguish.