There are so many rules floating about on what to do while pursuing a relationship. Some of the reoccurring ones are:
- Let the guy chase you
- Do not initiate contact for at least the first three months
- Do not show that you’re interested right off the bat
- Do not respond right away
- Do not be too available
I almost feel sorry for the guys - that is a lot of pressure and mind games to work around. But I also feel sorry for the women - on the one hand we are told to take charge and pave our own path but then we have all these rules that contradict what we are taught to pursue in every other aspect of our lives. Apart from the psychological toll, there is the fact that all these rules place undue pressure on an already hard situation. I think relationships (whether it be a friendship or a life partnership) is hard enough to formulate, but when we add all these mind games to the mix it makes it so much more difficult. We get so busy thinking about all these rules and worrying about not looking “needy or desperate” that we fail to focus on actually building the relationship. When the relationship doesn't work out we are then quick to place the blame on the guy or the situation and never take onus for our own inactions. IF women were to ignore these rules and go after what they wanted, would it make them desperate?
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Following these rules will help you to meet a guy..
Guy who is playing exactly the same perverted, sick mind games. Guy who is into honesty will take your feigned disinterest at it's face value and move on. Why would anybody waste time and energy on anyone who is not interested or is stupid enough to pretend so?2