I call my bfs grandma grandma because I have gotten very close to her over the 4 years we have been together. My bfs dad lives with her so we see her a lot. She is the sweetest lady and she said she loves me like a granddaughter. She only has 3 grandsons and one son so she told me before she likes having a girl around. Just to make it clear she asked me to call her grandma if I felt comfortable I didn't start doing it on my own. Well about a week ago she said that she needed to talk to me about something. I said sure what's up and she said it is bothering her middle grandson that I call her grandma and that she still loves me but out of respect for him could I just start calling her by her first name. I said yes obviously but it really hurt my feelings. If she really viewed me like a granddaughter shouldn't she tell himnto get over it? He is a 26 year old adult it isn't even his business what I call her. Like what difference does it make to him what I call her as long as I'm being respectful. I felt hurt that his grandma didn't defend me and tell her grandson that what I call her is between me and her and it has nothing to do with him. I felt like he was being petty and he should be told to get over it. Why would her grandson have an issue with it and how come I wasn't defended?
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To be honest, I could see him being a bit uncomfortable with you calling her that since you aren't technically a part of their family (yet?). It's probably just a bit weird to him, and it might seem a bit forward if he doesn't know that she told you that you could call her that.
I know it might hurt since she definitely sounds like a great grandmother-figure in your life, but you also have to respect their feelings and thoughts.
The family's impressions of you do matter quite a bit, so I'd go along with it for now. How does your boyfriend feel about the whole situation?
If you can't see why he would be upset over a title, why are you upset over it either? What difference does it make to you, calling her by her first name and calling her "grandma"? Especially if you both know that she makes you feel like family, maybe it doesn't need to be said, since it's implied. I don't know, that's just all my opinion though.
Best of luck. Sorry about him:(0