It almost seems like honesty is looked at like as if it were clingy. Why do we feel the need to play games with the opposite sex? Can't call him after the date or you'll look desperate. Can't walk up to a girl and tell her she's beautiful without being called desperate. Can't message them often or you seem "too interested". It seems like we've lost the values of honesty, and instead turned it into a mind game of who can screw with each others head the worst. I lose interest in dating quickly because it seems like that's all people do these days.
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Anytime strong feelings like love and fear of loss, rejection, even success are involved, we build barriers to protect ourselves emotionally. Both men and women do this in their own ways individually. Even in the cases where two people are very compatible, getting to know one another, learning to communicate and build the trust necessary to get past those barriers is best done by taking things slowly. In my experience, the "games" are practically unavoidable, but can be fun rather than sick when everyone just stays cool and takes things slowly :)2