It really doesn't matter what I say to him, I could write a novel about how great he is, about how much I love him and about how I value him and how much I appreciate him.
He absolutely refuses to listen to me and take my word for it.
He'll be okay for a day or so, but then he reverts back.
I have done just about everything in the book, and I'm at the point where I'm about to give up.
it's exhausting and I don't know what else there is I can do. I've done everything I can to SHOW it.
I'm at my wits end, where I'm starting to feel like I'm the one that's not good enough!!
Any ideas? thoughts?
Help a desperate girl out? Thank you in advance! :))
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Its not your responsibility too keep letting him know he is good enough. He is hoping that you will take responsibility for that, by you keep telling him. How he feels, is not your responsibility. Insecurity comes from the fear of rejection. He is afraid the one day you will just end up dumping him, because nothing he does is good enough anyway. But the silly thing is he already fulfilling the prophecy of rejection. Because you get sick of tired of that behavior. He doesn't believe he strong enough to handle rejection, and he doesn't trust himself, that anything he does is good enough.
At end of the day, if he is a secure and confident inside, you dumping him won't matter to him. If your strong within yourself, and you can handle situation that is thrown at you.
The problem with insecure people, they expect others to take responsibility for the way they feel about themselves, when they need to the responsibility for their feelings, being, and happiness.1