Ok so basically every guy I've been with has started off really great and then either said they weren't into having a relationship, or they just want to be friends, etc, etc and then they leave. I was just wondering if there is a set time that if there is no clear indication of him staying and when it is time to leave before I could get hurt. Are there clear things that guys say or do to show they are just being nice but are waiting it out to reject you? Are there things he will do to say he wants you? I just am so scared of getting hurt and rejrcted but I still want to give the relationship a chance to become a relationship but at the same time I am just so tired of trying to make things work or trying to get a guy to stay only to find out he is just going to disappear I don't want to get clingy or try to hard but I feel like I have to try to make the guy stay or like me with every guy
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STOP! in the name of love. . .
You have the wrong focus here. The trick is not to learn when to run away. The better question is "what am I doing that pushes guys away?" When you get treated consistently by several different people, it almost always relates to something that you are doing and to which they are responding.
The answer is contained in your post. "I feel like I have to try to make the guy stay or like me with every guy." That is a guaranteed plan for failure. Every guy will not love you for who you are and that is why most people date a succession of people before they meet "the one." Every guy will dislike you when you try too hard because you will come across as clingy, needy, and pathetic. Relax! Stop trying to make your current relationship be "the one," enjoy what it has to offer, and understand that if it doesn't work, you will find someone else and start over. Does starting over sometimes suck? Absolutely, but it's no worse than what happens when you keep driving guys away.0
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