Me and my friend are best friends. I love her, but I always feel insecure. I am very nice, and she's really nice too. However, she always gets the guys. The guys that I want, never want me. She can get guys to buy her drinks, but I can hardly ever get guys to buy me drinks, or it's through her that we get drinks for free etc.
Guys never really talk to me, I go up and talk to them, but nothing ever progresses, like no number exchanging, or meeting up somewhere etc. With her though, guys seem to progress with her. I was told many times that I am a very sweet girl with a bubbly personality. This isn't based off of my personal opinion. People have told me how nice I am, attractive, and what not, but yet my friend seems to have all the guys, and the guys seem to like her. It really puts me in a bad situation with myself because I don't know what I do wrong? I talk to guys normally, and I am very friendly. Maybe it is because she's prettier than me, but why is that?
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Can i share something similar (it's not related to dating though). I have a good sense of humor and a friend of mine does too. Usually when both of us didn't hang out together, i was easily the funniest guy of the group, pulling awesome jokes , making everybody laugh etc. But, i noticed whenever i tagged along with that friend of mine, it was only him; other people laughing at his humor & how witty he is. Not that i was jealous or anything, but lol most of the times his humor overshadows mine, whereas, i honestly don't like feeling bad about my humor or how dull it is as compared to his, so it kinda irked me.
So one day i decided perhaps, spending more time without being in his company can help me feel good about myself again and you know what, it worked. People seem to enjoy my presence too even when we both are together and we both are still good friends.
I think you need to be all by yourself on this front for some time so the guys can see you not in the light of your friend but for what you yourself are. This will give you some confidence boost. But be sure to not damage your friendship in the process. Good luck ))0