Most people suck, love isn't supposed to be easy to find ya know. Humans are the worst, THE WORST.
That being said, mistake number one was getting married so young. Fuck that shit. Mistake number two was meeting someone are a bar/club. Of course they all had the same intentions. And so should you. Club=Night for sex, don't you dare expect anything else. When giving your number out the only question on your mind should be "do I want to have sex with this person?" And the answer should sometimes be "yes." If something happens to come out of it, congratulations on hitting the lottery.
Don't date media whores (snap chat, blah blah)
Expand your horizons. A guy asked you for your number, but when was the last time you asked a guy for his? HMM? Stop hoping to "be a catch," and turn into the fucking rod.
Date in threes. It keeps you level headed and invulnerable to many atrocities of serial monogamy.
Find guys that don't fit your "type." I have never been with my type and I am very happy. Try dating a nerd, someone who doesn't drink, a vegan, 5 years older/younger than you.
Have a one night stand every once in a while. But don't let the guy pick you, you need to pick the guy. Give him a fake name, don't leave him a number, don't stay for cuddles.
And most importantly, take responsibility for your "bad luck." There is no such thing as luck. It is you who is letting these people in. Is it your fear of rejection? Your fear of sounding to desperate (for the record, you did not sound desperate at all -on a side note, just erase desperate from your dating vocabulary, I have literally never heard a guy call a girl desperate)? Regardless of where it is coming from, it is something that you are doing, find the trends and study them, their significance, their implications.
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Your attractivenesss has nothing to do with your luck.
But is has everything to do with the kind of men that you attract.
You are not alone with this problem, trust me.
Like a wolf pack prowls on a wounded animal, the douchebags prowl on attractive women.
If you're really attractive, most average guys will assume they don't have a shot anyway, and lay off before they even start.
Probably because of countless rejections.
This is the main reason women constantly complain how 'there's no good men left'.
If you want different results, you need a different approach.
You can either play a more active role, and be the first mover, selecting the guys you're interested in, or you can continue going through the wolves until an occasional 'good guy' grows a pair of balls.
You you can change the scenery. Instead of scouting for guys at the usual bars and clubs etc , go for meeting guys other places, at other times.
Late night bars and clubs are prime hunting grounds for the wolves, outnumbering real men 5 to 1.
If you do what you always do, you will get what you've always gotten.
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Well you did meet him at a bar! Honestly it seems like he isn't into you. He just prolly asked for your number at the time because he felt that's was the right thing to do.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You're just meeting the wrong guys. They should be lining up dates with you, not adding you on Snapchat. Those particular guys probably have a 30-second attention span, then they're off to the next girl.
I dont think its so much you, but where you're finding the guys. I've heard meeting guys in a bar isn't a smart choice so the advice i can give would be just try finding guys in other places?
im 24 been single for a year just got back out to try and find a girl a couple of weeks ago and I hate most of the females there stupid so I understand
I would keep trying. This guy is just one obstacle and there might be more, but just keep trying and u'll find that perfect guy.
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