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In the summer of 2005, the week my divorce became final. I joined eHarmony to find myself a new wife. I was full time employed working evenings and attending college and not only that, I had custody of my 4 year of son.
Every time the subject of online dating comes up in this forum, I feel the stupid quotient start to swiftly rise. Real world dating is what others value. Online efforts are either declasse, plainly false or simply overhyped.
Seven months in to my one year eHarmony membership, I met the woman that would one day become my wife. She also worked full time, but at a normal day job. With 8 hours clock time plus 1 hour lunch and 3 hrs total commute, her work day was 12 hours long. Coming home after 6 pm, still with 2 daughters to feed, how the hell was she supposed to date? Never mind how it is that we were supposed meet.
The strangest part of the story I've yet to begin to tell. When she was young, her family moved to my city and for a short time we attended the same elementary school. (I was in 2nd grade and she was in 4th.) By every measure were were meant for each other, but none of that penetrates for those that reject dating online.
This June will be our aniversary. Nine happy years together it will be. If you ask me for my life's best decision, it would be joining eHarmony.
To finally answer your question: I think a girl that wisely uses online dating is simply doing a smart thing with a modern tool. God bless her.1