I'm a college senior and will be graduating this month. I'm a double major in finance and economics. I was also in a fraternity in which I served as president my junior year. In the fall I will be starting my PhD in economics at a top 15 university.
So in the past few months I've asked out a couple of girls and they all said no and that "my smartness is too much to handle." One I'm that smart, I just study and two I don't even get what they're trying to say. I'm would say I'm a 4/10 looks wise but a 10/10 for personality. I'm 22.
How can I attract a girl to date me?
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well ill start by saying that the fact that you're getting your PhD in economics isn't going to hold much weight with picking up women. Guys who are way less ambitious than you pick up women all the time, and since i can only assume you don't want gold diggers... your degree path isn't going to help you much. It's only a sign that you work hard, but it can just as easily work against you if you come across as too rigid and inflexible with your time. To get a girl interested in you sexually, you need to provide her with what she wants... so essentially, you have to care about the things that women generally want.
So what do women want? Well, you can never really know what every girl everywhere wants all the time, but there are some general things that they tend to look for which are somewhat universal. The first thing they tend to look for are guys who have some of the qualities you would find in a good leader, like confidence, decisiveness, and vision. It's important to understand why though. A lot of people just say, "well just be a leader/confident" but they don't understand why. Girls don't look at men and say things like "omg he's such a leader, let me go sleep with him". It's about what a leader usually provides... which is comfort and security. I like to think of this as going on a field trip during my high school days. There was something really relaxing about having the whole day planned, and just letting someone else manage all the time consuming stuff, and you just had to show up. This is part of why girls like confident men, because they make their lives easier and more enjoyable to live.
Next things girls tend to want is emotional connection/impact. The whole idea here is that girls like to feel a spectrum of emotion when they are with a guy, and this can be done by challenging her on things, humour and being a bit spontaneous here and there.
The last thing is that women want to feel special/significant. If you can nail these 3 things, you'll be fine2