I had this crush on this guy. We saw each other almost every day. He was always so nice and caring and I noticed him looking at me that's why we started talking more and more. He started calling me beautiful and he would find a way to talk to me and if he couldn't, he would go out of his way just to say hi. He then started hugging me every time he saw me and would keep his arm around my shoulders or waist.
I added him on FB and we started messaging here and there. He would become more flirty online rather than in person and I thought he was just shy. Then he sent me a message about us going out, getting together and I said yes but nothing happened. Next time I saw him he was cold and distant and I even asked him if he was mad at me. Next he's the same nice and caring guy.
Then one guy was hitting on me and he noticed, he got jealous and asked for my number while telling me how beautiful, amazing, whatever, I was. Didn't hear from him in a week so I thought he was just playing and started to ignore him, he noticed it and avoided me. He then started texting me telling me I looked beautiful, asking me if I still cared about him and when he was sure I wasn't mad at him, he starting approaching me again. Once when we were texting I texted him 'Yeah that's why I like you, I just want to give you a hug'. He didn't reply until a day later 'Yeah I would like that hug'
His behavior didn't change, or maybe a little, he kept hugging me, being nice and caring, but somehow he was tense. And I decided to check his Facebook, I noticed I was blocked from his wall but his birthday publications from last year were there. I noticed one girl posted 'I love you hun' and he responded 'I love you too'. Long story short: he has a girlfriend and has been living with her for two years.
He doesn't know I know and I have no plans on telling him, but I feel like a fool, I feel played. I even made him a get well present when he got sick. I feel so stupid.
PS: Doesn't matter how much I like him, I don't mess with people relationships.
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Unfortunately this is not that uncommon and doesn't get better as men age for the most part. If you think you have a thing/ connection with a guy and it isn't progressing within say a month or so there is a reason and it doesn't matter what the reason is. It isn't going anywhere. He is getting something from it while you are wanting more. Don't ask why just move on... best1