Hey guys, I hope you can give me some suggestions because I'm all out of ideas. I just can't get a date.
I have no problems with shyness or anything, in fact I'm really outgoing. Unfortunately I don't have any friends to go out to clubs etc with where I live so that makes the bars and clubs scene pretty hard. I've even tried going along on my own but I just felt like I was weird.
I've joined a gym to get fit as well as to meet people. I go to the gym most nights and chat to loads of guys there but every time I try to start a conversation with a girl they just don't seem to want to talk. It's understandable if they are self conscious in the gym, I guess.
I've tried a couple of dating sites over the last few months but have found that although I've always taken care to write polite, friendly and hopefully funny messages, virtually none of them have been replied to.
Seriously guys, there's nothing wrong with the way I look, I'm really outgoing, polite and well turned out. I'm in the UK, where people are quite a lot more reserved than in some places but still you'd think someone would like date or even just a chat! What else can I try?
Sorry if this all sounds a bit negative but I'm really right out of ideas and I feel like I've tried everything I can think of again and again.
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Most girls just want to exercise at the gym and don't like getting hit on. What works for me for meeting new people is doing stuff where people are there to socialize and where they show up regularly, no matter how dorky it seems.
So for example, go to a pub quizz, go salsa dancing lessons/club, join a soccer team. Volunteer to clean up the local park with whatever charity does that kind of stuff where you live. If you have friends who like cooking, start getting together with them regularly and take turns to make food. Get them to invite single people they know. You can invite single girls you meet at the gym/salsa/wherever; they will be more inclined to date you in a group situation if they don't know you. Good luck!0