I have to admit, after a third serious relationship break down and after each one gets a lot more painful and messier than the last, I've put my walls up way too high this time and I don't see them coming down anytime soon and I've become quite a cold/blunt person from it all. I feel like no-one could break those walls but even if they had a chance, it would have to be taken down brick by brick, ever so slowly. Don't get me wrong, I'm still a very sensitive person, I consider myself a great girlfriend that treats a partner like a king and I show my love constantly, but now it'll take longer for me to show that side, until I could trust a guy again. Up until that point, I can appear distant/uninterested, when actually, I'm protecting myself. I still enjoy the guy's company.
I was wondering if that would put a guy off, he wouldn't have the patience for that or he'd find a damaged girl unattractive and go after someone else. Would you be willing to see a girl for a fair few months before you made it official? Would you be understanding and not judgmental or view her as weak? Would you require to know the full story of why she's become that way or would you accept it as it is? How would you feel about this kind of situation?
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Yeah, of course, but only if she is worth waiting for.
So if you ever date a guy, just tell him that you want to take things slow. You will be covered.
There is no need to explain why you need to take things slow or no need to bring previous bad relationship stories, they bore people.1