I've been seeing an older guy on and off for 3 years now and I'm not going to lie i like him a lot but I'm confused as to what he wants from me. He goes in and out of my life and i have no idea why; there are times when everything is great and times where i won't hear from him in months even if i call or text him. He just pops in my life when he wants to and it's not fair to me. I try to be honest and ask him if he really likes me he claims yes but acts differently sometimes... he recently reached out to me and i was acting very distant and i guess he didn't like that cause he was trying so hard to meet with him and having some interest in him and he worn me down i did hook up with him... i don't know what he wants one minute he wants me than the next he doesn't.
Oh i know he has children and no longer with his wife. I'm 23 and he's 53
Most Helpful Guy
I would hazard a guess that he's been on his own for some time, as you have said you've been seeing him on and off for three years. After this amount of time being on his own, it must be very difficult for a guy of his age to establish a new relationship. He has got used to doing his "own thing" for quite a while. He probably doesn't really know what he wants, so you have little chance of knowing either. if nothing much has happened in three years, it is unlikely to change in the future. Unless you are very lucky!
Only you can decide if you want to stick around and wait, but I think you could be on a road to nowhere.0
Most Helpful Girl
Forget about him, maybe on and off works well for a 53 year old divorced man, but at 23 i don't think that's what you would want/need1