so my boyfriend for two years dumped me one day for no reason and now he tells me and my friend that we r just takeing a brake but whats the difference and he never stopped talking he says he doesn't wanna lose me but he isn't ready yet and when i talk to outher guys that are just my friend he says things like block him or yell at him or did u tell him ur someone else's im so confused whats going on here
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He can't have it both ways. It sounds like another friends with benefits bullshit situation. If he dumped you it means he has lost all of his girlfriend privileges from you. If he misses that, and wants you to not be accessible to other guys then he shouldn't have dumped you, and he should ask you to come back and tell you he's sorry for being so juvenile.
As soon as someone does what he did, as far as I'm concerned you are a free agent. There's a difference between taking things slow to just breaking up. But he didn't even want the relationship to change! It's as if he wants to be able to tell people he's single, but keep you around as a backup plan so he can still access his girlfriend privileges without feeling obligated to be committed. It's a way for people to put insurance on their bad behaviour if things suddenly don't work out. They can come back and say, "Hey babe we DID break up after all."
I'd get rid of him or have a serious talk with him that things either improve and you go back to how you were and to make things even better, or tell him you understand taking a break ultimately means breaking up and that you are both single and will enjoy the privileges of being single. If he denies that this was his meaning, then clarify what "taking a break" is (it will usually mean that he doesn't want to go out in public with you), then you can say that that's not the relationship you signed up for. You're either in this or out of this.0