I fell for this girl my freshman year at college, and I flirted with her for about 6 months before making a move. When I did, she rejected me, and I found out from another girl that she liked me but didn't feel a physical spark with me. Basically she thought I was too soft and "roll-y poll-y." I was crushed hearing this, and it made me realize that other girls probably thought the same thing about me.
I worked hard to get in shape, and I lost about 35 pounds of fat while adding muscle. The big thing is that I changed my body composition from 22% bodyfat to 9% bodyfat (DEXA scan). I've transformed my body, and I finally have like a 4 pack lol. My question is, would she reconsider me now that I've overcome my fatness and struggled to make myself look more masculine? Is her rejection permanent, or would she maybe rethink things now that I look different?
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any women that choose their partner based on his weight are deeply confused and probably still naive about sexuality and true masculinity. You REALLY don't want a woman like that.
Look, Tony Soprano doesn't have any trouble getting laid. Neither did The Notorious B. I. G. Hell, Action Bronson is a perfect modern example of this. Experienced women appreciate the raw sexuality of confidence and power. Why do you suppose the kings with the naughtiest reputations happen to be the fattest? Because size is a display of power and wealth; and women are attracted to those things- these are historical and biological truths.
I'm not even trying to tell you not to date a girl like her because she is shallow. I am telling you that you shouldn't bother because she does not seem to be in tune with sexuality or her own biology. She needs a little more experience0