I'm not really feeling the tingle when we kiss?

Okay so I sort of made out with my boyfriend for the first time and it was nothing like what I'd expected and dreamed of my entire life... It was kind of gross and sloppy and very fast paced on his part. Lets just say I really didn't enjoy it, and I don't know if I'm comfortable doing it again. Everyone says that when you're in love, you feel that "tingle" or chemistry when you're with them, and when you kiss and hug and touch. I haven't felt that with him since we started dating and I don't know what that means. I know I love him, but maybe I love him as a friend? But I also know that he loves me and he doesn't have these feelings of uncertainty that I do. What do I tell him? Is it bad that I don't like making out with him? How do I tell him that I'm not comfortable with it? What the heck is wrong with me :(


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Most Helpful Girl

  • When I first started dating my boyfriend I hated making out with he because he would use wayyyy too much tongue. It honestly grossed me out but I was super afraid to tell him that I didn't like it. So I made out with him like two more times until one day I was just over it and told him I didn't like that. Now making out with him is
    awesome! It's super scary to talk to them but in the long run its worth it

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What Guys Said 6

  • I have never kissed before so i don't know the feeling. But my brother is pretty popular with girls, and i remember he told me that when he got his first kiss he was grossed out and he hated it, especially when the girl tried to use her tongue. He even told me he went to the bathroom after that and washed his mouth and tried to avoid kissing the girl as best as he can. But later on, he said its awesome and he likes to do it as much as possible. He loves making out with girls now. I guess its a thing that happens at the beginning, and then fades away with time.

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  • Nothing wrong with you at all. Good for you for knowing that the magic isn't there. Just be respectful and truthful with him, tell it like it is, and don't waste your time with someone you cannot connect with, and who is out of synch with you. Wish him well, but do move on, and wait to find that special someone.

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  • Lol well first times are rarely ever perfect or even good nor should you expect them to be that's why you practice and get better. As for there being no tingle or whatever you'd like to call it, just simply let him know if you don't connect with him it's better you tell him then continue being with him and not saying anything, as that is kind of leading him on.

    I've been in a relationship like yours were it got serious and I did love her but the magic, the spark, passion it just wasn't there. And I realized that I loved her as a friend and not as anything else and that she felt the same way. It was better that we realized it when we did instead of going any further, the same can be said for you to.

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  • If you don't like the way he kisses try to take the lead. Kiss him first and go at the slower pace you like.

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  • Your only 15, dont be in such a rush. Kiss him again later, lol!

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  • Ya, no tingle is bad.

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What Girls Said 6

  • isn't it sad how our first kiss turns out to be NOTHING like what we dreamed it would be? 😔😔😔

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  • If anything tingles y'all should probably go see a doctor. Kissing isn't that magical, people romanticize it and make it seem like absolute heaven but it's just not that amazing. Don't get me wrong, I love kissing my boyfriend and it does feel nice, but it's not the fairytale that people make it out to be.

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  • It's just a kiss and your first time at that. Perfection doesn't generally go hand in hand with inexperience. You need experience to figure out how to properly kiss.

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  • Are you atttacted to him?

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  • I've been told that I haven't felt that "spark" while kissing because it wasn't someone I love. I think it's because I just don't really like kissing that much. I have to be in the mood for it or something. lol. I also pay too close attention to if I'm doing it correctly because I haven't kissed a lot of people and I feel like I never got great at it. Maybe it's because you were overthinking it too. Just let it happen. It might not happen the first time. I think people rely too much on these "sparks" and make other people doubt good relationships. You'll know eventually if you like him or if you're just friends. I would wait and not base it off of the kiss. Good luck!

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  • It's okay! Just give it some time.

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