Im insecure of my looks regardless of how you think I look. Its a me thing and I really like this girl she's pretty cool and today is Friday and I got nothing to do but sit at home. I wanted to ask her to hang out get some food and chill at the beach but Im always hesistant because I feel she's gonna think Im not good looking or worth dating... she's really sexy and a lot of guys hit on her Im talking about good looking guys with awesome jobs and all the like. I just dont feel I measure up. She talks to me sometimes over facebook and for some reason she hates my ex.
I still can't gather up the cojones to tell her Im interested. What should I do? I think that the lack of confidence might break my chances too
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Ok, forget about your confidence, your looks, or your self-esteem for just a second. There's probably a reason she has not said yes (to be a girlfriend) to any of those guys.
Now, you have Facebook together. Use that to your advantage. "Hey, thinking about striking down a boring Friday with (insert activity here). Care to join me?"
If she says yes, great! If she says no, reschedule.
"That's cool. How about next Friday?" Keep it simple. You're not aiming for a date, you're aiming for a hang-out. Point out that you guys don't really hang out and what not.
Then, on the hangout, THAT's where you two just have fun like you guys are friends, but here's the rub: You have and will want to establish a CONNECTION. The verbal interaction, inching your way to a physical connection. (Think hands and shoulders. Don't aim down there or she'll think you just want something else.) Look for cues to see if she's comfortable before you make each move. Then that's when you transition to a date.
And the plan the entire time was to turn a hangout to a date!
Worst case scenario: You sense she's uncomfortable, you stop sneaking in those "I want to date you" touches, you still have your friendly and fun interactions, and you still land safe with a hangout. Hopefully, more hangouts can transition to dates if the first one doesn't.
Hope this helps! Questions or concerns?1
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