before the date will actually happen or like 5 days before? I will get together with a guy I met 2 months ago but until now we are practically will see each other in person after those 2 months. Last week on Satruday we were talking about going out but we agreed that this wweek we were going to go out. Last Saturday we did not set details where are we going to go or what time he will pick me up, ause that can be arranged the same day of the date. We just said we are going to go out. The idea is that the guy will pick me up at my sisters house because he can't really come to my house to pick me up and coincidentally my sister lives in a town near from where he lives so I suggested the guy I will sleep over my sister for the weekend and he can pick me up at my sisters house but I have to check with her and I will let him now, he said ok. That same Satruday I checked with my sister ahead of time and asked her and she said yes I can sleep over but I never let the guy know that because he will think that If I answer him right away after my sister told me that he may think im kind of desesperate or persistent to go out with him so during all this week I haven't talk or text to the guy or viceversa.
Today my sister asked me if I was going to her house this weekend or not I said to her let me answer her tonite when I talked to the guy then my sister asked me: So you never agreed to the guy u were coming?
I told her that I will answer her tonite. The thing is that when I talked to the guy one week ago I told him first I have to check with my sister if I can sleep over sure she said yes but I did not telll him that right away I did not want to spund desesperate to him, I wanted to give him some time for intance to find out my sisters decision, even though I alreayd knew the answer but the guy does not know that. I am planning to call the guy tonite and tell him that my sister said yes and told him that just yesterday I could get a hold of her that is why I did not call him earlier in the week.
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You should have told him sooner. You shouldn't have left him hanging like that. It would not have made you sound desperate to let him know when you found out. People need to get over this way of thinking. You should put yourself in the other person's shoes. How would YOU have felt if he made you wait so long for an answer? Personally, I would have thought he just wasn't that interested and I wouldn't sit around wasting my time waiting to see what he wants. Being straightforward and honest is actually a good thing and something we all should practice.0
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