I have heard people say a man acting gentlemanly means that he thinks that women are less capable then himself. Can a man be a gentleman to his girlfriend by doing things like opening doors and paying for dinner, and also treat her as an equal partner in the relationship with equal power?
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In my online dating profile, I say:
"If you are comfortable with my very original idea for a first date, I would suggest that we meet for dinner at a nice restaurant on a Friday or Saturday night. I will open doors for you and I will pull out your chair to seat you and you will realize that chivalry is not dead. Yes, I know you can open the car door yourself; I do these things because I treasure you and not because I perceive you as being weak. If you offer to pay for anything, I will be polite. . . but that's not how traditional men do things."
Some people think that if you behave like a gentleman, you must think exactly like men thought of women 150 years ago. That is absolute nonsense. Being a traditionalist doesn't mean you hang on to every tradition in the book. My online profile also says: "I'm 5'9"; I don't care if you're taller than me. I won't call the fashion police if you wear white shoes after Labor Day. Traditions are great, but some social conventions are just stupid!"
If a woman thinks that a gentleman must be a sexist jerk, it says something about her hostile attitude towards men!0