I feel like if I let my feeling show I'd scare a girl off? I have a deep passionate love and really want a strong emotional connection with someone. I don't let this show because I'm afraid to come on too strong to early. With some girls I look into their eyes and can feel a deep connection immediately and want to hold them and share my love with them. I don't want to scare them off so shut down and show no interest. I feel if I try to show a little I won't have control. I don't know how to start with a little affection just to show interest. Any tips or ideas? How much affection do I show when first meeting then on a fest date and so on. I see a cute girl and like her personality my heart immediately melts. How do I stop this. I know girls want a man they don't some emotional, romantic, wimp. How do I shut down these deep feelings and just be a regular guy?
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Hey, I've been asking myself that kind of questions as well. Three or four things actually seem to work for me.
- Actively making sure you do (or try to) meet, interact or go on dates with multiple girls at the same time, at least in the beginning. If you keep options open, you realize that that particular girl is really not THAT special
- Find your goal in life, the thing that gives meaning to your life, what you'd still do, and enjoy doing even if you were castrated and had absolutely NO chance with women, and go for that goal
- Understand how YOU get attracted to women, what goes through your mind, the process, what you feel and think, what makes you develop feelings. That one is perhaps a bit unhealthy in my case, but I've found that I need to trust a girl to develop feelings, so having deep trust issues from my past, I kind of use that to my advantage to keep from developing feelings when I don't want to
- Understand how WOMEN really get attracted to you or to other men in general. That one can either be depressing or liberating depending on your personality and outlook on life. And I'm not talking about what women want, but what they subconsciously need, seek and are drawn to. The (kind of) irrational side of it.
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