My younger brother is 19. He has an Asian girlfriend. She met all our siblings (I have 5 siblings). She's a very nice girl and she's so down to earth gorgeous. She's so submissive and I can see my brother's future with her and he'll be in good hands. Our family is white by the way. Our mom, however, doesn't like her because she's an Asian. According to her Asian is an inferior race and if they were to get married it would have a bad effect on her grandchildren. As an older sister, I feel so bad for my brother. How can I convince my mom to get rid of her odd thoughts? I just feel like I need to do something in this situation because I know his girlfriend personally and she's very nice. Also, she's an international student, which makes my mom thinks she's using my brother for a green card but I can tell she isn't, I can see they love each other for real.
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Well, if you want to go with a stereotype, Asians have a very huge stereotype stuck to us that we excel in every academia available. What we touch we instantly absorb into our minds for centuries. (Not entirely true, but it's universally expected. Growing up with not the same blessed ability of drive I can vouch that every non Asian i met as a child ask me why I wasn't good at math. To be honest if I could explain I would but it's gibberish to me. I excel at English and history though...)
Asian parents, esp those from aboard with first generation children, also push our children to strive to be the best the can be, almost to a frightening level. There are enough Asian teens/adults providing parodies of their experiences and parental expectations of them on youtube.
But I also believe in her worry though not so much. I have a friend a little older then your brother who married an international student out of love and she ran off with all there belongings half a year into their marriage. And he has his own construction company too so it's crazy she would just run back to vietnam!
It'll take time but I hope your mother comes around.1