I am from the Netherlands and as a woman, I prefer going Dutch. I'm a fair individual and expecting a man pay for the first date is unfair. What if the date is succesful in the eyes of the man but the woman decides to keep it at one date. Is it fair for him having to pay for a person he will never see again? Of course not!
Why is it expected of men to pay? Just because they are born with a dick? If you're not able to pay for yourself don't go out on a date where money is necessary. Just go to a park and bring a bottle of wine, some cheese, bread, olives, salade, etc and enjoy each others company.
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This is partly why most smart guys are making the first few dates more casual. No i'm taking you out to dinner followed by a concert on our first date. Lets get a cup of coffee or a drink. A casual date is (1) less expensive, (2) puts less pressure on the woman which may make her cancel, (3) lets you know she's interested in YOU and not just in what you have planned for the evening1