We have been talking every day almost all day for exactly one year now. we see eachother in secret multiple times a week. He treats me well. i never would've believed i'd be into someone this much older but it happened and i don't care because i'm mature for my age but also i want to know what others think (not that it will change my mind )
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Under 18 gives me a bit more pause for concern than I would normally have. I am fine with 15 year gaps in general... my concern here would depend on HOW under 18 you are, I suppose.
The fact that everything is done in secret is a red flag. A big age gap isn't something you're going to go have a parade about, but making it all secret does add some questions about how he actually feels about it, and it makes it seem like even he himself thinks there is something wrong about it. If he didn't think it was wrong of him, he wouldn't have to hide it.
If you are really into this guy, and he is really into you, then it shouldn't be a huge deal to wait until you are over 18 before taking things further. It may actually help each of you get some time to have that NRE rush fade, and see each other as you really will, because early in a relationship the chemicals in the brains make clarity of thought impossible. So it could help in a couple of ways. If it's "meant to be", going slowly and safely won't risk anything, and it will show how much it means to both of you.0