I want to be in a dd/lg relationship. is anyone else here interested in dd/lg? any tips and or advice?
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Yeah, I am familiar with this.
Good DDs can be hard to find, because the combination of mentorship/nurturing can run a little contrary to the discipline/sadism side of BDSM. So it's harder than just finding a regular Dom.
And you'll want to find a DD that fits what you are looking for. Some are obviously more into different elements of the punishment/discipline side of it, some are more into the care and emotional nurturing. And obviously when it comes to the sub side, the lg side, there is a huge amount of variety in what is acceptable and desirable. I've never run into two subs with identical wants, needs, and kinks, so you really want to make sure both people are looking for the same thing.
You'll want to find a DD that is still going to respect you as a person - they should feel that you are one of their most precious things, and they should treat you as such. Though they will need to make sure you do as you are told, obviously. It is a power exchange, but it is a power exchange made by equals. They may be unequal while the exchange is in effect, but they are equal and both worthy of respect outside of that exchange. That's a key element, really.
At some point you'll want to go over a submissive's contract, and one that has a numerical rating for each thing, not just a y/n, so the DD can craft the proper experiences for you.
It's a pretty huge topic to just... ramble on about. If you have specific questions, feel free to ask, or send me a message.1