So I love my boyfriend. He's the best person ever. But lately, my friends have been making comments about his appearance. They'll say things like he's awkward or that he dresses strangely (I think it's quirky and cool). Once my friend told me that I "saved him" because he's never going to be able to get a girl as pretty as me. I was shocked. I'll admit, he's not as conventionally attractive as some of the other guys that I've dated, but he's still attractive to me. I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions get to me, especially when it's about something as trivial as looks, but it does. I know that my boyfriend is musical, driven, intelligent, kind, and loving. But my friends just see a lanky, awkward nerd with a girl who's apparently "out of his league". They say it so much that it makes me question why I'm with him, and that's not something I want to do. What do I do?
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Let me tell you exactly what happened when I was dumb enough to do the same when I was younger.
My best friend has been with current girlfriend for 7 years now, and when I met her the first times, I told him "WTF dude? You got better girls in the past etc, what's going on?"
We had a talk about it several months later and he told me that, as a best friend, maybe my role was more to understand that she is the one, and that I should support him despite everybody else disagreeing, because THAT is what being a best friend is about.
I felt like an unworthy idiot, because I suddenly realized he was right. How arrogant of me to judge as if I knew better than him if she can make him happy.
So maybe you should tell your friends that either they decide to behave like friends, or they can get the fuck out because as far as you're concerned, HE is the one making you happy..1