My friends say I'm out of my boyfriend's league?

So I love my boyfriend. He's the best person ever. But lately, my friends have been making comments about his appearance. They'll say things like he's awkward or that he dresses strangely (I think it's quirky and cool). Once my friend told me that I "saved him" because he's never going to be able to get a girl as pretty as me. I was shocked. I'll admit, he's not as conventionally attractive as some of the other guys that I've dated, but he's still attractive to me. I know I shouldn't let other people's opinions get to me, especially when it's about something as trivial as looks, but it does. I know that my boyfriend is musical, driven, intelligent, kind, and loving. But my friends just see a lanky, awkward nerd with a girl who's apparently "out of his league". They say it so much that it makes me question why I'm with him, and that's not something I want to do. What do I do?


0|0
5|8

Most Helpful Guy

  • Let me tell you exactly what happened when I was dumb enough to do the same when I was younger.

    My best friend has been with current girlfriend for 7 years now, and when I met her the first times, I told him "WTF dude? You got better girls in the past etc, what's going on?"
    We had a talk about it several months later and he told me that, as a best friend, maybe my role was more to understand that she is the one, and that I should support him despite everybody else disagreeing, because THAT is what being a best friend is about.

    I felt like an unworthy idiot, because I suddenly realized he was right. How arrogant of me to judge as if I knew better than him if she can make him happy.

    So maybe you should tell your friends that either they decide to behave like friends, or they can get the fuck out because as far as you're concerned, HE is the one making you happy..

    0|1
    0|0

What Guys Said 7

  • Sounds like you need to have a talk with your friends about what they are saying about you guys and see if they will tone it down and stop or get new ones :)

    0|0
    0|0
  • Your friends are saying they don't like him and it really isn't any of their business cause you're the one dating him not them.

    0|0
    0|0
  • why do you care what THEY say? it only matters what u think of him because ure the one that knows what he is truly worth

    1|0
    0|0
  • Maybe they are just jealous of what you have... who really cares as long as you're happy!

    0|0
    0|0
  • If you like your boy friend then who cares what they say? Tell them they aren't the ones dating him so shut the fuck up. There isn't anything wrong if you are mutually attracted. I think my girlfriend is out of my league as well haha

    0|0
    0|0
  • Just tell your friends to fuck off.

    0|2
    0|0
  • loool! A girl once told me her friends said she could do better, I was like "go on then!" You've got a choice to make, listen to them and dump him or tell them to stfu!

    0|1
    0|0

What Girls Said 5

  • My boyfriend's not what most people consider attractive, but I care for him very much, and I'm not at all bothered by his appearance.
    If I were you, I'd ask my friends how they would feel if I said their significant other wasn't up to my standards in regards to appearance.

    I don't think they'll have much to say, other than "it doesn't matter what YOU think of him".

    If you're happy with him, your relationship is healthy, and it's a relationship you WANT to be part of, tell your friends that THAT'S what they should be focused on, not his lanky nerdyness.

    0|0
    0|0
  • They're very immature and don't know what a real relationship has to hold in order to stand strong.
    I would ignore them or stick up for him (so they will stop).

    0|0
    0|0
  • Do your friends have a boyfriend? ever thought they might be jealous? dont let anyone intefere in your relationship.. you fall in love with the strangests people.. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.. one thing can be beautiful for you but ugly in someone elses eyes.. and if you break up with your boyfriend because he isn't attractive enough for you than he doesn't deserve you at all.. trust me the grass isn't always greener on the other side

    0|0
    0|0
  • It shouldn't matter what your friends think they're not the ones in a relationship with him. As long as your happy with him then that's all that matters, try to not pay attention to what they say.

    0|1
    0|0
  • Your friends are assholes

    0|0
    0|0
Loading...