It's been a few months and i think I'm in love with him. I know he likes me and we have fun. All good right? Wrong.
For a few reasons it wouldn't work out long term (religion, him possibly moving awwy one day etc).
there's also the fact that next week he's going traveling for a month with friends. He's not my boyfriend so I have no right to ask him not to get with any girls, but obviously don't want him to. I haven't said anything to him because I don't know what I'd say
my friend thinks I should relax and see what happens, but I can only imagine this ending in heartbreak.
I don't know what to do :(
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if you are that emotionally involved and it has been over 3 months but you guys don't have an understanding this is setting you up for a big fail. I would see the trip as my opportunity to establish things in clearer terms. He doesn't need to call on a time schedule but this is the time to have the exclusive or not talk. If he can't commit now he won't later, he just isn't that into you, you guys are just having fun. On the flip though maybe he is totally into you and doesn't think the talk is necessary or doesn't know how to approach.
Either way, this is your crossroads. If in some magical land he does commit after the trip and hooks up on it I promise it is a ticking time bomb. I travel for the experience and travel often. I trip planned 9 months out happens in the middle of relationships but I have fun, maybe a flirt but nothing more. Same with other guys I meet on the road. When it is real and means something hell enjoy the trip but not hook up because he doesn't want to have to lie to your beautiful face repeatedly on return. The longer he is gone the more he misses you and less likely o cheat if it is real. best0