How to ask a guy you are dating why he struggles with money?

Anyone have any tips on how to get to the root of why a guy suddenly starts
saying he is broke and can't do expensive dates (he's saving and paying off debt)
but to get to the root of it without hurting his pride? Just been dating a few weeks.

Updates:
We were going for a picnic and bike ride and he said that it wasn't in his budget for even that... this is why I'm wondering because we have mostly done cheap or free dates (walks, movies at home etc...) I'm not looking for expensive dates at all - but he has a full time job and a picnic he can't afford?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Uhhhhmmm you don’t. Ever. Lol Unless you happen to need the morning after pill and he says he can’t afford it. Other than that, you never ask someone about their money. That’s one of those topics that you really shouldn’t inquire about unless someone has volunteered information. This is because it’s a sensitive topic and it can really hurt a man’s ego. Instead start doing some silent examining and pay close attention to his spending habits. Does he have cable? Does he have a shoe or video game collection? Take inventory of his monthly bills: car payment? Celli payment? Groceries? Is he one of those guys who spends lots of $$$ on supplements and protein stuff? Does he have a pet who has needs?

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What Guys Said 4

  • Is it that Important to you where you want to leave now because he's broke?

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  • Why should they always be expensive dates? Maybe he's just getting tired of forking out all the time? (dont mean to sound harsh lol)

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  • Just a few weeks in, it's none of your business. If expensive dates are mandatory, don't accept any more invitations from the guy.

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  • his money is not yours dont worry about what is in his wallet.

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What Girls Said 4

  • That's none of your business. Especially not because you're only dating for a few weeks. He already explained more than enough: he's saving and paying of debts. That's all you need to know.

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  • just ask him IF he does.

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  • I trust you are paying your share on these "expensive"dates, and not just being a freeloader.

    And what business is it of yours, what his financial situation is.

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  • Y do u need to know about his money? It shouldn't bother u wether the date is expensive or not: it should just be about having fun and spending time together. Just sayin

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