I'm going to try and make this as short and sweet as I can. A bit about each of them (using random names here so don't mind that) -
Guy 1 - Beau. I've known him for two years now. I worked with him in 2013, and that was how we met. He's the rebellious, bad boy, dangerous vibe kind of guy. And I mean dangerous in the good sense. He's a bit of a swinger, not caring for relationships and being tied down. I'm alright with that. He's helped me really break out a bit from the shyness I have. We're always flirty with each other and any experience I have is with him, though not all the way.
Guy 2 - James. I've known him for a bit over a year. He's more of your average guy, and in the Army reserves. We both like each other, andthough he asked me out a year ago and I said no, I finally said something about it, and we've agreed to try and go out.
Problem. I've hung out with Beau more than James, and now, ever since I've told James I liked him, I've been questioning my decision. At first, when I told Beau about it, he seemed jealous, but I'm not sure now. They're both fun to hang out with, but with James, it seems there's no spark. I wondered if it was because I haven't seen him since I told him I liked him, but we're not flirty at all with each other even over text, whereas with Beau, we (not always) are a lot of the time. I feel that spark, that nervous excitement when I'm around him. But the biggest issue is, if I stay with James, I could risk Beau actually wanting something, but if I say nevermind to James, I risk Beau not wanting something, and me losing a chance. I guess the shortest way to put it, is I'm torn between them both, and I don't know who to pick. I don't want to hurt either person.
Any advice at all would be extremely helpful. Any confusion, or need any more info, please don't hesitate to ask. I know this was kind of quick and may not be clear. Thanks in advance for any help!
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Honestly, it sounds like you haven't given the "spark" all that much time to develope with James. Honestly, it sounds like Beau really is a player, and Im sure you think he's so confident right? The thing with players is that "confidence" you think you see? Its not confidence its a mix of apathy and narcissism. Basically, they dont give a shit about you other than to stroke their ego.
Gives James a little more time if no spark developes, try and find another guy, not like Beau.0