My boyfriend and I started officially dating about 2/3 months ago, since then we have spent nearly every weekend together and nights through the week. I was starting to feel like we were spending too much time together but I didn't think too much about it. At the weekend I caught him flirting with another girl through text and when I confronted him he told me he was in a difficult place with our relationship and felt we wanted different levels of commitment. He said he needs more space than he thinks I need, he thought I wanted to spend all our time together.
I mentioned to him that I would be open to having some more space between us and slowing things down and that I felt the issue was with our communication, maybe I had been too needy and he hadn't communicated his needs. I said I needed to know I could trust him but I also take responsibility for smothering him.
He said that he felt horrible for this but he had started to resent the time we were spending together as he is someone that likes his own time and he sometimes needs that space to recharge.
I have made plans with some girlfriends to catch up this weekend so that he can do his own thing and not feel pressured to be around me. What other steps should I be taking/considering?
Should I be prepared for a break up or is this recoverable?
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Recoverable - although I would back away and let him do his thing while you do yours. Communicate the boundaries for the distancing and what you both expect then take it from there.0