Seriously, how the hell does someone remain confident in themselves, their looks, and ability to attract the opposite sex when every single girl they've tried to date turns them down? Where would this magical confidence come from? Is there some secret confidence vault I've been left out of the loop about? How can a person possibly feel so utterly confident after constant rejection without being on drugs or something? Hey ladies, here's an idea, how's about you be confident for a change and actually ask a guy out. Oh yeah, and, no, I don't think girls like jerks, I just think they don't like me, if you think that somebody like me wouldn't start thinking that after 9 out of every 10 girls reject him (because the tenth girl didn't even listen to him) you're delusional.
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Brainstorming here: Maybe your approach needs tweaking? Or maybe you're going after the wrong kind of girl...
I know I'm old-fashioned (& compared 2 u I'm old! lol) but if u want a classy girl, you're probably going to have to make the first move. (And my daughter is the same way in this regard.) Girls like to feel wanted, to be pursued. And yes, they do like confidence- NOT to be confused with cockiness! By the same token, guys are generally attracted to self-confident women.
More importantly, you need to believe in yourself & be comfortable with you are, not to get a date , but simply for yourself. Work on the inside first-becoming the kind of person YOU like, acting like the person you WANT to be: your best self. Tell yourself that you're attractive, that you're funny, that you're smart, & anytime you catch yourself thinking negatively toward yourself, immediately turn it around into positive self-talk.
Until you can acheive inner confidence, fake it on the outside- watch your body language, hold yourself erect, don't fidget, look everyone in the eyes, be charming, considerate, tastefully funny.
Realize that your self worth isn't dependent on what others think of you. As you start to believe that, others will notice.
Oh, and flirt a bit before asking someone out, keep the tone lighthearted & fun. Make them feel special. Be aware of timing.
Hope these suggestions help! :)0