My best guy friend and I are really close. We literally talk maybe 12 hrs a day or so and he said I am one of the most important girls to him outside of family. And he is the most important guy to me. And I developed a crush on him... so not important but I asked him if I said I liked you, what would you tell me. His reply: Nothing. And I said because you wouldn't like me and he said, no because we're friends. K this will sound really stupid but what do you think he means by that? And would you go out with your best friend or no because you like how the friendship is going. Two questions there. Can anyone answer?
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About myself: I would never want to go out with my best girl friend. She's a very sweet and cool person but she can also get on my nerves quite a bit. She has a condition called selective mutism and it can be very difficult to deal with it, even after 12 years of knowing her. The condition influences her a lot in terms of speech. Sometimes she has phases where she talks like a waterfall and can hardly listen to anything you are trying to tell her about your own life, and sometimes she's just completely silent for hours and you have to ask hundreds of questions and still just a get "yes" or "no". Also, when people with this condition feel angry or very sad or very uncomfortable in a situation, they are not able to communicate that, they just completely shut down and don't say anything anymore. They don't do it deliberately, it just sort of happens. So while I don't blame her for it, I still sometimes get pissed about it. My mom is a therapist and I have been taught excellent communication skills. Good communication is extremely important for me in a love relationship. When problems arise, I want to talk them out. I can't have girlfriend who just goes to stand-by mode when she has a problem with me. Also, I wouldn't want to date my best girl friend because she is 28 years old but completely without any dating or sexual experience whatsoever. She's never had a boyfriend, she's never kissed a guy, never had sex of course... I doubt she ever held hands with a guy. So, while I do find innocent girls cute, I can't deal with this kind of innocence. As a best friend it's fine but as a girlfriend it's too much. I don't want to teach her how to kiss or the very basics of being in a relationship at my age because that is what people usually learn in their teenage years.
As for your situation: No, I wouldn't date your best friend if I was you. See, there is a very simple rule of thumb that is almost always true: friends can always become lovers, but lovers can never become friends. In other words: trying to be your friend's girlfriend is extremely risky. It might work for a while but once it doesn't work anymore, you'll lose him. I've experienced this myself. I had a best girl friend that I developed a crush on. It turned out she also had a crush on me and we became a couple. At first, it worked absolutely great but after a year she broke up with me cuz we didn't fit together and our awesome friend-relationship could never be revived. We fell apart. It wasn't worth it.1