A girl just cancelled a date with me, like a couple of hours before. She had a vlaid excuse and even rescheduled. The problem is: im a guy with long patience, but after that im kind of short tempered. So i first cooled off before responding, otherwise i would have insulted her to death lol
I still dont know how to respond and if to respond... She gave a valid excuse, rescheduled and apologized...
But i still think its lame... But anyways what should i respond her, since i see her in class...
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How to judge cancellations:
- If she totally flakes, no call/no show, she's done. No more contact. Don't give her the satisfaction and don't be in the habit of giving girls that satisfaction.
- If she cancels and suggests another date (not just "meet me at the bars") then you can let yourself look upon the cancellation with more leniency.
Here's a good tactic I learned from a non-Love Systems guy and have used successfully:
1. She texts in the early afternoon to say she can't make a night date. She doesn't suggest any alternate date or plan.
2. I ignore her text all afternoon and evening. I go about everything as if she hadn't cancelled.
(She is getting nervous. You have to understand the extent to which she is more flexible than she pretends, and to which EVERYTHING functions as a shit test and demonstration of power relationships. In this case, regardless of the apparent validity of her cancellation, to some large or small degree she is signalling a need for reassurance--about who has more leverage, and that, if you have the leverage, that you understand how to exercise it. In other words, some deeply inexplicit part of her wants to observe your reaction. It's inexplicit, so responding explicitly won't work.)
3. I may text her 15 minutes before to say, "I'm on my way," or I may just show up and then text to see where she is. I'll pretend I never saw or noticed the cancellation text. You'll be surprised how often she drags her ass there (you have to keep a strong frame overall for this to work). If she still doesn't show you ought to freeze her out and observe her subsequent behavior. If she's genuinely apologetic, wants to meet up, and suggests specific times and places to do so, you can think about keeping her as a prospect.
That's just one script. I'm sure the instructors have some other tested ones.0