When she cancels a date, how to respond?

A girl just cancelled a date with me, like a couple of hours before. She had a vlaid excuse and even rescheduled. The problem is: im a guy with long patience, but after that im kind of short tempered. So i first cooled off before responding, otherwise i would have insulted her to death lol
I still dont know how to respond and if to respond... She gave a valid excuse, rescheduled and apologized...
But i still think its lame... But anyways what should i respond her, since i see her in class...


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Most Helpful Guy

  • It depends.

    How to judge cancellations:

    - If she totally flakes, no call/no show, she's done. No more contact. Don't give her the satisfaction and don't be in the habit of giving girls that satisfaction.

    - If she cancels and suggests another date (not just "meet me at the bars") then you can let yourself look upon the cancellation with more leniency.

    Here's a good tactic I learned from a non-Love Systems guy and have used successfully:

    1. She texts in the early afternoon to say she can't make a night date. She doesn't suggest any alternate date or plan.

    2. I ignore her text all afternoon and evening. I go about everything as if she hadn't cancelled.

    (She is getting nervous. You have to understand the extent to which she is more flexible than she pretends, and to which EVERYTHING functions as a shit test and demonstration of power relationships. In this case, regardless of the apparent validity of her cancellation, to some large or small degree she is signalling a need for reassurance--about who has more leverage, and that, if you have the leverage, that you understand how to exercise it. In other words, some deeply inexplicit part of her wants to observe your reaction. It's inexplicit, so responding explicitly won't work.)

    3. I may text her 15 minutes before to say, "I'm on my way," or I may just show up and then text to see where she is. I'll pretend I never saw or noticed the cancellation text. You'll be surprised how often she drags her ass there (you have to keep a strong frame overall for this to work). If she still doesn't show you ought to freeze her out and observe her subsequent behavior. If she's genuinely apologetic, wants to meet up, and suggests specific times and places to do so, you can think about keeping her as a prospect.

    That's just one script. I'm sure the instructors have some other tested ones.

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What Girls Said 2

  • Just respond by saying that it sucks that you can't hang out but that you understand and are looking forward to your date.

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  • Can't you wait until the rescheduled date? Is it that far?

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What Guys Said 4

  • Give her one last chance and if she does it again drop her like a bad habit

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  • I would just reschedule

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  • Be excited and and about the rescheduled date plans

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  • It's not really replyable, if the rescheduling was her asking if such and such was fine, then say yes or no depending on if it is or not but its not really a replyable text. The only other thing you could say is, well that's s bummer, I was looking forward to it but if you can't then you can't, right, and that rescheduled date is (good, bad) for me, I'll see you in class though :)! I think she wants to see some emotion from you. Girls will often do that, because they're testing you. If though, she continues to break dates like this, she is not interested and only enjoys the attention, in which you then drop her faster than an apple falls to the ground

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