My girlfriend is making me meet her parents and all that and I'm really fucking nervous about it. I desperately need help.
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You needn’t dress up but be clean and neat. In other words, no bed head, no ripped jeans. Greet them with a smile and a firm but comfortable hand shake. Look them straight in the eyes and say, “I’ve been looking forward to meeting you. Your daughter speaks so well of you.” Take nothing for granted. So, don’t sit until you are invited to or everyone else sits and it is obvious that you should join them. Make polite conversation. Sports, movies, school are all safe subjects. Avoid controversial topics like politics or news, unless they ask your opinion. In that case, be honest and prepared to defend your point of view calmly.
They are liable to ask you direct questions. Give them direct answers. Be sensible. So, if they ask whether you are planning to go to college, you can say that you are going but are unsure of your major because so many things interest you. Or you can say you are going to apprentice as an electrician. You should have a plan but maybe you don’t. Then say, “I am trying to decide between school and the trades. I would be curious to know your opinion on this.” If you are already in a career, talk a little about it and then ask about his.
It is unlikely they will ask you point blank about your relationship with their daughter but they might hint obliquely. Suppose her father looks at your girlfriend and says in conversation, “Your mom and I knew each other for nearly a year before we dated.” He is not just making idle conversation about his relationship; he is fishing to know about yours. Ask him something else about their relationship, such as where they first met or when they realized they were more than friends. Then say something true about your relationship with your girlfriend. It could be as simple as “Your daughter is my best friend.” Or, “I think your daughter and I make a really good team.”
To summarize, you need to read between the lines and be straight with them. One more thing. Always try to see their point of view and support them. In other words, make yourself their ally. If they say, for example, that they would rather you not live together, tell your girlfriend you want to respect their wishes. You can spend as much time together as you like without moving your things in together.0
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