what do you think?
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To me, jealousy does mean that you care. Jealousy isn't a bad thing, and its completely normal, because EVERYONE experiences it to at least some extent. Its not jealousy itself that is bad, but the way that some people deal with jealousy.
For instance, if a guy is jealous in a relationship, and he starts to yell, argue, lash out, and become controlling; it means, yes, he cares, but he doesn't know how to handle this feeling, and is probably toxic for a relationship.
Another guy is jealous in a relationship, and he may be a little upset, but he decides to communicate the issue to his partner in a calm, non accusatory way. Instead of trying to control and manipulate his partner, he simply asks her to stop doing what is making him uncomfortable and/or asks for reassurance from her.
In both cases, the guy is jealous. In both cases the guy does care. But the firts case sounds bad, while the second case doesn't, right?
People shouldn't focus on NOT being jealous, because its a feeling that you can't get rid of, but instead should focus on how to HANDLE their jealousy in a mature way.1