So I've been dating this girl for a few months now. We are the same age (25) and we get along well. She's nice, fun and down to earth. A few days ago I learned to my surprise that she has a kid! A two year old boy. Her and the father broke up not long after his birth. She never mentioned the child to me before and later said to me that she didn't want to because she was scared I would run for the hills. To be honest, she's right.
Since this has come out, I want to end the relationship. Despite the fact I really like her and think she's a great girl, I've always said that dating a girl with a child would be a deal breaker for me. Maybe I'm young and immature, but I just cannot fathom taking care of a child that's not my own. It's just not something I am ready for or willing to deal with. Some of my friends say I should just get over the fact she has a kid, she's a nice girl and think I would be good with her. I agree, but the child has really, really bothered me. I think stringing her along any longer would just be cruel.
I don't know how to end it with her. How can I do it without hurting her feelings? She will be devistated no matter what (she's already told me she loves me and see's a future with me) but I want to try and do it in a civilized manner.
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You like her but you seem to not want to accept her child. you are just not ready for that. so my advice for you is to break it off.
you even said ( the child has really, really bothered me).
just be honest with her and tell her that you can't be with her.
that its best if you guys just stay as friend. that you still want to be single.1
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