I got a new job at my college. I'm an extremely self-conscious girl. I wear TONS of makeup and I take pride in my appearance. I sometimes wear form-fitting clothes to show off my great figure. You can call me vain. I tend to be loud and extremely talkative. I act very clumsy and ditzy and have been described as quirky. At the same time I'm very friendly. a lot of people compliment me on my humour. a lot of guys have complimented me on my looks. I'm used to that.
Now, at my job, there's some guys. What can I say, I live for male attention. There's these 4 guys who've I've befriended, one of whom I think is really cute and developed a tiny crush for. Now none of these guys have really tried to flirt with me (they have girlfriends) but we would make sexual jokes and the like. I've accepted that my crush has a girlfriend, but I'm not interested in dating him. I JUST WANTED TO GET HIM ATTRACTED TO ME. That's usually the case for me- I have zero interest in pursuing a relationship-I just want to have my attractiveness confirmed by having them attracted to me!
Now that's the problem. I'm not sure if any of them were. I heard through the grapevine that these four guys actually "hate" me- they think I'm too lazy (I'm not!) and I act like a "carefree dumb blonde". THAT HURTS ME SO BAD. I've never faced rejection, or hate like this, and they fooled me- I thought they liked me! :'( I mean, they don't even think I'm attractive!
I made a lot of other male friends who seemed intrigued by me, but now I'm wondering- is it because of my looks or just my bizarre, quirky behaviour that can be entertaining? (and they possibly just make fun of me because of it).
What this boils down to is that if I don't act all crazy or wear loads of makeup, no one, absolutely NO ONE will want to talk to me. I know this because I was there. But no matter what I do, no one will ever truly LIKE me.
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Reasons why people may not like you...
1) I wear TONS of makeup
2) I sometimes wear form-fitting clothes to show off my great figure (being arrogant and full of yourself isn't the best trait.)
3) I live for male attention
4) my crush has a girlfriend, I JUST WANTED TO GET HIM ATTRACTED TO ME
Darling, these guys probably don't like you because you live for male affection. You sound like you cake yourself in make-up (which most men don't like)...
... sounds like they would want to put their dick inside you and that's about it.
You need to get some self respect. You're a grown woman acting like a 14 year old. Once you have some self esteem and don't have to have external verification of your worth, all this shit won't matter. Until then, don't act like a hussy and then cry about no-one liking you. People don't like people who try and vie for other people's boyfriends attention. It's a pretty shitty thing to do and makes you assume the person is pretty shitty. People tend not to like vain people either, or people who assume their looks will make up for a lack of intelligence or work ethic.0