Please note the distinction between "want" (the word I used) and "expect" (a word I didn't use) The two don't mean the same thing.
Imagine being rendered unattractive by an accident or disfiguring disease. Do you believe that you would then start to find other physically unattractive people attractive?
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Wanting to date someone that you're physically attracted to seems nearly universal (there may be some people who genuinely don't care about physical appearance, but my guess is that they are a minority), and I accept that people generally can't make themselves to be attracted to people that they're not (though I'll admit, as someone who is attracted to a wide variety of people, it's a bit difficult for me to understand people who have a very narrow view of attractiveness).
But you're right to make a distinction between "want" and "expect". I only find it hypocritical when someone complains or gets upset that the people they are attracted to aren't attracted to them. I think that people are entitled to have their own standards for dating, but if you have standards, you have to accept that other people do too, and that you might not meet them. I find it particularly hypocritical when the standards you hold other people too involve effort on their part, and you don't put forth that same effort (for example, if you expect a slim/fit partner, but you put no effort into maintaining a healthy diet and exercising yourself, or if you expect a well-groomed partner, but you put no effort into your own grooming; or if you expect a well-dressed partner, but you don't put any effort into your own wardrobe). I also think it's hypocritical to expect other people to overlook your flaws, when you're not willing to overlook other people's flaws (like, if you expect people to overlook your acne, but you won't overlook someone else's cellulite or stretch marks).0