I've heard that dating is a numbers game... but this is just crazy. From October 2014 up until today, I have been on 17 dates with 17 different women.
I usually keep my dates fun and interesting. I've gone to the batting cages, I've gone for coffee & walks in the parks, bowling, roller skating, you name it.
On these dates, I always feel like I am making a connection with these women. The conversation is usually good, a lot of my dates end with me and the girl kissing or making out for a little while and many of them always express interest in seeing me again. The funny thing is... that never happens.
After these many first dates, if I text or call a woman, she will reply to me... but she will take a long time. Then if I try to contact them again, they drop off the face of the earth. Sometimes, the next day after our first date, they won't even reply at all.
This is really annoying to me, and it makes dating seem more like a chore than something that is fun and should be enjoyed. I feel like I instantly know the outcome of each date... and it has been like this for every date I have gone on.
Why do women suddenly go MIA after date 1?
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The connector to all of these dates is you. You're the issue, but it's really hard for you to see WHY you're the issue.. because it's you. Perspective is tough for all of us, so don't feel too badly about it.
Something you're doing is pushing these women away.
Basically how these women FEEL when with you, and later thinking about you, is all that matters. If they don't FEEL anything then they'll move on. If they FEEL excitement, curiosity, or attraction, then they'll see you again. That's it.
From my experience there are three main reasons a girl loses interest...
1) The guy is WAY too into the girl. His interest is way more than hers. This is just naturally a turn off. Your job is to mirror her interest, and take it a notch lower... just slightly. Save your energy, and let her win YOU over a little more.
2) The guy is too fake. This happens when we guys are nervous or too interested, or too worried about what she thinks of us. We all do this constantly. We try to act cool, or pretend we're awesome, or we act in a way we think she'll want us to act.
But women see right through this and instead we come across as creepy or fake.
The hard way to over come this is through practice. Practice being open and honest, and do what ever it takes to learn how to not care what other people think of you... especially the girl you're dating. Because she'll FEEL when you relax and you're comfortable in your own skin.
3) The guy is boring. There's really not much to be done about this... we are who we are. To become more "interesting" you just simply have to be more social, and more curious about HER. Talk less, ask more questions... sorta thing.
I don't know where you sit on this scale, but there's clearly something you're doing that's coming off not quite right. When in doubt double date with a friend so that they can tell you later if you're being weird?
Also note that these are women you're choosing... perhaps there's obvious Red Flags that you're ignoring about them all? Maybe try changing your "preference" of woman for a while, in order to mix it up?
Good luck, and don't stop this work.. it pays off when you're patient!