I'm talking (hooking up as well) about 6 months with a guy who is older than me (I'm 22 and he is 35) he is divorced with kids. first he seemed like he wanted a relationship but now he ditches our plans at the last minute and then asks me if I'm with other guys when I say I'm out. he says how he has commitment issues and how he doesn't want me to see or talk to other guys now and how he can't let me close bc he could get hurt. we had plans today but then he told me how we always fight and then told me he doesn't wanna talk any more today. it's one day he is all lovey then the next accusing me or being with someone else then the next is a jerk saying he doesn't care about me. is this a defense mechanism to not get hurt or is he really just a jerk?
Is he using me or is he afraid to get hurt?
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Bunch of red flags here. He sounds like he goes 0 to 100 over nothing. Maybe it's my personality, but I love my space.
I used to think it was cute when guys were controlling and jealous, but now I think it's creepy and unattractive. Being constantly accused would bring down my self worth and make me have a crappy morning or afternoon until I got over it
You need to be careful. This is mental abuse and I hope it doesn't turn physical. I had an ex like this so I'd know.
He obviously has trust issues. I'm not sure if he's just like that or his ex did something. Regardless it sounds like you two need a sit down and he probably needs therapy.0
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