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it definitely could be either.
There are definitely guys I know, who could get girls without any problem, but CHOOSE to stay single. They'll happily have sex with girls, but they have no interest in the restrictions, obligations, and expectations that come with a relationship - they want to be free to do what they want when they want.
And those guys often get girls who are interested in them, and sometimes will have sex with them. I'm pretty sure at least some of those girls want relationships with those guys, but they don't get them, because those guys WANT to be single.
Also, some guys simply know that their own circumstances don't lend themselves to being in a relationship at that time. Maybe he works 2 jobs, and has no free time. Maybe he's broke, and can't afford to date (yes, girls, even the cheapest girl is going to cost money to date), maybe he lives at home and can't bring girls home. Maybe he's going to be moving soon, or going back to school, etc.
The reality is: it doesn't matter. Either a guy WANTS a relationship or he doesn't, and if he doesn't, the reason why is irrelevant - you probably won't change his mind. Thus, if you are looking for a relationship, you need to be looking for guys who want the same thing, and are actively looking to get into a relationship (and will state as much to you). Otherwise, you are probably wasting your time on the guy and/or setting yourself up to get hurt.0