Pregnancy? Unprotected vaginal sex has a 5.8 to 30.0 percent chance of yielding pregnancy. Proper use of condoms reduce the risk of pregnancy to 0.116 to 0.600 percent per round of vaginal intercourse. Proper use of the birth control pill reduces the risk to 0.0058 to 0.0300 percent. Proper use of condoms AND the pill reduce the risk to 0.000116 to 0.000600 percent. With that combination (birth control and pill), if you have sex 100,000 times, the risk of pregnancy ocurring in ANY of those times is 30.0927372974 percent. 100,000 times is having sex every day for almost 274 years!!! And STILL the risk in any of those times pregnancy ocurring is well below 50 percent. The average American has a higher chance of dying in an ALCOHOL-RELATED CAR ACCIDENT in their whole LIFE.
STD's? Again, condoms and get tested with the appropriate frequency. Get tested every 6 months for STD's. That should be plenty.
Now let's get to the "moral" aspect of it. Is there anything wrong with women having desired casual sex at some points in her lifetime? As long as she's not cheating and remaining integrous about it, what's the problem with her choosing to have casual sex at times, as long as she's willing to remain faithful when in monogamous relationships? Even if she has a history of cheating, would it be fair to deny her the chance to ever find love again? Provided that she explained to me the various things she did to repair herself and cure her cheating tendency (i. e. counseling, etc) or that she did it once and learned from her mistakes, I'd personally give her a chance.
Why does it matter how many sexual partners a woman has had? Especially if there's no history of infidelity? I am just trying to understand why for many men it's a deal-breaker if a woman has had many sexual partners, since many don't mention any or give really vague or assumption-fueled ones.
Most Helpful Girl
i agree 100% and people judge so harshly2
Most Helpful Guy
Its not the sex its what the sex represents. If a woman is sleeping around then it implies that she wants physical pleasure rather then emotional connection. If this is the case then it also implies impulsiveness and an inability/of lack of desire to think of the consequences. Basicly I am hitting 30 so a woman wants a relationship with me. But she slept around a lot when she was younger, this makes me wonder why she suddenly wants to settle down. Is it because she is truly in love with me, or is it simply because she is getting older and no longer able to sleep around, is it because she wants to spend her life with me or is it because she has a quickly decreesing time scale with which to have children. If she cares about me and loves me and wants to be with me great, but if its the other way around then she is only using me. Thats not particularly fair to me especially since I would be the one providing for her caring for her and her children. It also makes one wonder if she only stoped prioritsing sex because men where chasing women younger then her, then what will stop her from cheating/leaving me for someone else he will provide her with the sex and attention she really wants. That would then leave me with a whole lot of debt, especially since divorce favors women, and emotional trauma because I had just been used, that I loved someone who claimed to love me but really didn't. Now that is not to say I expect a woman to be a virgin, that is just stupid I am not and it wouldn't be fair for me to demand that of her. However I do require that she actually had feelings for the people she slept with because again if she never really cared about the emotional connections with others then she really isn't going to care about them with me. This should hold true for men as well, though it seems to be less of a big deal for women, I believe because traditionaly men had a lot more invested (money, house, taking care of kids financially for at least 18 years, etc.). So the impact to them was extreme especially now that the laws are designed to extract as much money from men as possible.(80% if alimony and child support are paid by men despite the fact that 80% of all divorces are filed by women, the most cited reason being "no fault" or ireconcillable diffrences.) As long as men and women are diffrent, and we are held to diffrent standards this issue will continue to exist.0
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