Ok Im 14 and I've never had a boyfriend before! What do I do to be more attractive?

[Weechlo]

[LonerGirlBree3]

Not having a boyfriend at 14 is something you shouldn't stress over. Focus on just being young for now. By my personal opinion, just judging by this question, I'd say you aren't ready for a relationship. Relationships can be messy and frustrating, especially at your age because you're both still young and immature and have a lot of growing up to do. Try to hold off on growing up for as long as you can. There's no rush for these kinds of things. Take it from me, I used to think having a boyfriend at your age was important but in truth, it's not. Even when the opportunity presented itself, I still refused to jump into a relationship because I knew I was too young and not ready for that kind of commitment. So just enjoy life. Focus on other important things like school but also have some fun every now and then. Make your teen years count for something other than "that was the year my boyfriend and I broke up/got back together (blah, blah, blah)..." Just make it count! (:

[sirenademar]

Hello:) Honestly it is not about being the prettiest, etc. (Without being vain and all ego aside as I do not have one...) I have to say, Im a cutie (model pretty everyone says) ... And so kind and fun. But I am single... And 31. I date. Hot men, funny men, smary n sweet men, .. Etc. But I lack the skill of letting go... And living in the moment wirh a guy I truly adore... So honestly... It is about emotionally being available, and being able to relax... And have fun! Of course looks usually come first in terms of attraction... But it is def not the only thing.. And most guys could care less about having the prettiest/attractive gal. They are looking for someone who is real and can let her hair down... My opinion... And my experience!:)

[sirenademar]

But this is more when you get a little older! I didn't date or kiss until I was 21! Relax :))

[kxera]

Oh wow "14 and never had a boyfriend"!!!
That's like so fucking bad.

haha, no!

Big whoop like it's not a big deal. I'm 16 and I haven't even been kissed.

Get over it and just be yourself. A guy will come along eventually.

Sorry if I sounded rude with my bluntless, but it really isn't a big deal to be 14 without ever having a boyfriend. Whether you believe it or not, a lot of people don't even start dating until they get in college.

[ThisAndThat]

Being 14 doesn't mean you aren't attractive. Being 14 is being 14 and guys around your age they are very bashful when it comes to asking a girl out so they are much less likely to ask a girl out. And on top of that you could be one of those that are above average in looks too which makes it even harder for a guy to get up the nerve to ask a girl out believe me I was 14 once been there done that already. In stead of worrying about your looks so much because you may already have that in the bag and then some. How about throwing a hint to the guy that catches your eye your crush a hint that you don't have a boyfriend and you're interested in guys particularly him?

[AleDeEurope]

You're only 14, relationships at that age means nothing. This comes from a guy that had 4 relationships when he reached 14, and yes, they were fun, but they really meant nothing.
Just focus on your studies, have fun, eat healthy and do exercise so that when it comes the time to get in a relationship you're an intelligent girl, happy, and in good shape, that way you'll have the whole package and zero problems to get a guy.

[R3d_Anonymous]

How the fuck did you have 4 relationships by 14? That's amazing. I'm 17 and still completely lack any experience at all. I've merely dreamed of the perks involved and it really lowers my self-esteem and makes me anxious.

I have only been on one date, and that's if you count a girl walking in (it was at a coffee shop), smiling awkwardly, walking out (because she's shy and awkward), and then her friends unsuccessfully coaxing her to "meet the man" [me} for ten minutes and everyone resigning after 10 minutes. It wasn't due to to lack of interest either. All of a sudden right before the date, she was acting extremely peculiarly needy saying things like, "I hope you like me," or, "I'm scared you won't like me," or, "I want to hug and kiss and be girlfriend and boyfriend..." This was a girl that I met online. No offense, but she was extremely crazy and dumb and had absolutely no direction in her life, and was a total couch potato.

If you count that, then I've been on one date.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Not to mention, I wasn't physically attracted to her at all. I merely went on this date because my insecurity over inexperience has been getting me so down.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Yeah, I got carried away and went off on a tangent there. lol

[AleDeEurope]

@R3d_Anonymous Seriously, don't worry. They were 4 relationship that didn't mean more than just kisses and cuddling. There was no real conversations going on, no going out together, no doing what real couples do, cause we were too young. I don't regret them, cause they helped me to learn about relationships, but it's not something that I really give too much importance now.
And I get what you're saying about going out with a girl you're not attracted too, cause that happened to me a month ago. I've been on a drought of years without a relationship, just casual sex, but I met this girl and we had a fun conversation, so I decided to keep going out with her even though I didn't find her attractive, but I just got carried away because I wanted a girlfriend, so I just settled with the first one that came by, just to realize 3 weeks later it was a mistake, and I had to break up with her.
The lesson I learn is that I have to be very sure that I like her before starting a relationship.

[R3d_Anonymous]

lol the kisses and cuddling is what I've desired the most.

But bro, you've had casual sex, so you're good. Whether that is beneficial or detrimental to relationships is a topic of its own, however you did have a lot of sexual experience.

I mean I'm a kissless virgin (until recently, also hugless and danceless too).

[AleDeEurope]

@R3d_Anonymous But you're only 17 so don't worry too much about it, I started having sex at 16. I never engaged in any sexual activity with any of my girlfriends, every time I've had sex has been casual or with a friend, so it's not too ideal.

[Genie23]

Relax, girly. You're just 14!
You should care about your school and hang out with your friends. It's normal to be single at age 14, don't worry.

Just enjoy being 14. You don't need a boyfriend, to make you happy.

[Frost_Byt3]

Just be healthy. A healthy, average weight is attractive. Also, it helps if your on the short side because guys prefer for a girl to be shorter than them, and at your age most girls are taller than the boys.

Really all i can say is take care of yourself. Eat healthy, stay active etc. etc.

Plus, your lack of relationship experience may not be because of your looks. You may just need to start taking the initiative. Start asking boys out instead of waiting for them to ask you out.

[serious]

Why are you even worried? you are only 14!. You don't need to do much at this age, because as you grow older into your late teens and early 20's your physical looks will change, your thinking will also change, which will add to your attractiveness, so don't worry at this age. Just enjoy doing other things you like. Don't do anything out of desperation, it's never good. Don't go for a boyfriend, because everyone has one, insecurities are not good. Just be yourself. Good luck

[Minxxie]

I never had a boyfriend until I was 18! people mentioned it and teased me about it but I wanted to wait for a meaningful relationship not just date for the sake of it. And now we are looking for an apartment together and about to start at the same university! You are only 14 you are too young anyway, just enjoy being single. 14 year old boys are awful anyway.

[menina]

You're 14, you're too young to be worried about that. You still have a lot of time to get a boyfriend.
Don't worry.
As for being more attractive, do want makes you feel attractive, whether if it's by losing weight. get a new haircut, buying new clothes etc..
If you feel good with yourself first, the others will also find you attractive.

Good luck!

[macattack]

Guys are pigs at 14 you dont want them anyway plus you are only 14. I didn't have my first kiss till I was 14 and I got my first boyfriend just resently (two completely different guys, ) so don't worry about It. Remember that you are a goddess and You should be treated like one.

[Mariyah99]

You're only 14. Don't worry about boyfriends and stuff :-))

[Jusjay]

You don't have to do anything to be attractive enough to get a boyfriend. The right guy sees beyond make up and nice hair. And be patient, you're still young

[Snow-Wolf18]

The only thing you can do is wait. You're still really young so just focus on school and enjoying your childhood while you still can. Trust me, you've got plenty of time for boyfriends when you get older.

[KAZ-2Y5]

I am an 18 year old college freshman and have never had a boyfriend however there is this really cute guy in English class just focus on your school work. Just wait for your body to grow and mature and they will come to you.

[MissNowhere]

You're so young, you don't need a boyfriend. -_- Just wait a few years.

[tyber1]

You're 14, it doesn't matter. Many people don't start dating until they are practically adults. I had a crush on one girl in HS who never had a boyfriend until she was like 22. Dating at 14 is dumb anyways and 99% of those relationships fail.

[Jxpxtxr]

I'm 19, I'm a model so I can't be that ugly and I've never had a boyfriend, either. But since I'm quite a rare case I guess you should just grow up, wait and see what happens :)

[Keyspirits]

Lemme ur first and everything baby 🌹

[Jxpxtxr]

lol I don't even know you though..^^; @Keyspirits

[Keyspirits]

Its not too late is it ;P
There is a time and place for everything so will u take a chance on meh baby 🌹

[Jxpxtxr]

I don't know, do you live in Luxembourg by any chance? 😅

[Mesonfielde]

Grow up by about 4 years. Then people will be all over head over heels for you.

[jacquesvol]

M. H. O. !

[complicated_soul]

Don't get into those yet. It only creates drama in middle school 😛😛
Focus on study.
You have got lots of time.

[Danyahman]

Be open to anything and figure out what you want. Then be more open to conversations with guys about what they care about.

[answersplease]

Relax. You've got heaps of time to find a boyfriend. Just enjoy yourself and you'll get one when you least expect

[Ashely_Princess]

Don't change yourself to please someone else. Be yourself always. If you don't have a boyfriend just be happy with your single life. Someone will come along soon :) <3

[Polswedgirl]

You have your whole life ahead of you to have boyfriends & relationships... Every age has its turn

[KidanisCortes]

Wait untill you grow up a little your body is still maturing as of now soon some boys will love you