Guys, I think my boyfriend is two faced or I could be wrong.. What is the real meaning?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend tells me to loose my belly fat bc he is into fit girls.. Fine that is his point of view.. But the funny part is he is following this girl on instagram and she is in a bathing suit.. On the beach which shows boobs.. Legs.. And the funny part is she has a bit of belly too and he liked her pic.. isn't this ironic.. Weird and stupid? ... Or even crazy? ... What is he saying or doing.. Is he be[ng two faced in his point of view? ...

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When i askked him hyptetically.. If he saw another girl that had a belly would he gag or not.. And he changed the subject...

[madhatters4]

uh the biggest issue here is that you allow him to objectify you and tell you how you should be rather than loving you for you. if he wants a girl with certain physical traits than he should date that type of girl. if he is going to date you he needs to be in it because he likes you inside and out.

my honest feeling is that you shouldn't even bother trying to please guy. move on to someone better

[Remonster]

Sure, but working on your health hurts no one, either.

[madhatters4]

no it doesn't but he can say it in a way that is respectful and is clearly about concern for her health rather than his own objective enjoyment.

[Asker]

He has changed his approach.. N says it do for urself more than for me.. How did this change happen in a day..

[madhatters4]

well if you finally confronted him perhaps that's all it took. a lot of times we get frustrated about things in life that could potentially be solved by address the issue or we haven't addressed it in a way that is effective. so if you effectively confronted him on the matter then maybe that's all he needed to realize that he was behaving poorly

[Asker]

True but i think now he's lustfully after me bc he goes he's not emotionally connected to me... N i think he's fishing arpund.. Going to weddings by him self.. Thinks he's the smooth operator.. By his big talks.. But it hurt when he said if someone comes alonf n he feels emotionally connected.. He would drop me!! .

[madhatters4]

why are you with him? he's basically said that he's only into for sex and doesn't have a connection to you emotionally AND that he will basically dump you until something better comes along.

Listen to me. You deserve better. Dump him ASAP

[Asker]

Wen he said emo connected i thought he was not ready to say i love u n regret it n yeah i was mad when he sd he would drop me for someone else.. I cut off all talk with him as i gain strength bc he wants to talk to me more after his bro wedding... I told him. bfr noy to waste my time.. N he says he's not.. But i feel he is so self centered n told me.. U hve to. look out for urself.. No one cares.. True but y then is he treat[ng me like trash.. Calling me a gud girl n all

[madhatters4]

dump him

[Asker]

Looks like i have too

[madhatters4]

i think so. he's put you in a no win spot. either you prove to him, by his standards, that you are worth him but that no way to exist in a relationship

[Asker]

I agree with u now he goes work out for uself.. Miracle?

[ImSoSozzled]

He just wants you to be as hot as possible so that other guys will be envious of him. It's an insecurity/ego thing. He's still attracted to you, but he knows "fit" girls are generally seen as the most attractive by society, so that's what he wants you to be.

[Asker]

I get that n now he says just like u.. The sydden change... Is a miracle

[FrenzyP0W3R]

Well, I see that he's only following her on the instagram, nothing to worry about and actually a lot of guys and girls do it (?). I don't think you should be worried about a "Picture Girl" from instagram and stop making so much fuss about it. He might changed the subject because he might have feel uncomfortable with your questions in mind?

[JuicyBrain]

I think he may have smelled that that question could not end well at all.

[Asker]

Exactly so to avoid it he changed the subject... Bc he got caught!

[FrenzyP0W3R]

@Asker I still don't see a problem here? Maybe you look more beautiful for him if your stomach would be more flat?

[Asker]

I suppose

[FrenzyP0W3R]

@Asker You See :D

[Asker]

Yes working on it ;)

[Honesttoafault]

There are way to many fat people in the US. Women weigh 30 pounds more on average today than the did 50 years ago in the US. So, lose the weight and you will not have to worry about it or dump him and date a guy that is into fat chicks.

[Asker]

Trur

[cookienick]

Following someone doesn't mean anything... it could be a follow for follow or something like that... :)

[Asker]

She is not following bk

[LeedsDude]

He just wants what he hasn't got if you had a flat stomach he'd move onto something else and you would be forever trying to please him.

[Asker]

Thats what it seems... But when i asked him would he date another girl who had a belly or not or jyst gag... He changed the topic.. So ironic... I think he shud b happy what he has...

[LeedsDude]

People are stupid some are just never happy you could change every part of your body and then he'd ask to change your personality.
try telling him you will join a gym "yeah you could be right I could tone up you should too six packs are so hot lookbatvthis guy"

[Asker]

Well i did tell him [ joined the gym and he says he does not see results.. Its funny though i tell him he doesn't match my checklist a body like the rock n he says idc... for me its a two way street but i find him weird bc he will call non fit and liked a girls pic on instagram that had a belly almost like mine except hers is a bit less n he changed the subject so i did tell him. its ironic how he is molding me to fit his list but he does otherwise... weird!!! ..

[Anonymous]

wow i mean i think it's still reasonable to ask you to lose a bit weight IF that's his preference but if he's doing it to jerk you around and control you, and it not because he likes fitter girls, then i'd say dump him, he's a control freak and it's not gonna become any better

[Asker]

Thnkz

[The_James_Factor]

dump him! he's a lying manipulator, and nobody got time for that!

[Asker]

Okay

[Farmores]

Drop him like a bad habit. You deserve better that that.

[Asker]

Thnk u