I'm a 26 year old female. I'm still working on being assertive and going after what I want, especially with men. I've significantly improved over the last couple years. However, I missed my chance with a guy I really like, who is EXACTLY what I'm looking for.
I recently took a job at a school and a guy in food service was really attractive and sweet. We had a few promising interactions and I'm confident that we both like each other. He recently took a new job and I was hoping he would ask me out before the semester ended or at least ask for my contacts. But he didn't. He seems so outgoing and comfortable with everyone else but me. :/ I've tried to be the more assertive of the both of us and it helped him warm up to me and we formed a small friendship. But I'm shy too. I haven't got to the point where I was confident enough to add him out. I accidentally told him I would miss him and he kept telling me this wasn't the last time I would see him, that he would be back to visit, somewhat regular and asked was I coming back next year.
I really like him but I won't hold my breath on this one. People get busy. BUT I do hope I will see him again. And since he seemed so sure I thought it is probably a real possibility and I would work on my confidence or what I would say when I saw him next.
I thought about asking for his social media contacts. But then I thought 'what if we weren't alone? What if we were outside passing by? Asking him how his summer was, etc leading up to asking to keep in touch. I really like him and I don't want it to be reduced to a "hi and bye' with neither or us acting.
I'm so new at this and he doesn't seem exactly comfortable with asking me out. I don't want to leave it up to him. Any advice on how a shy person approached another person?
***Just for clarification, I DO NOT have any way of contacting him. I was a big chicken and wanted him to ask. So yes, II'll have to wait until the school year starts up and he comes for a visit.
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oh he likes you for sure, I think the reason he didn't ask you out was because he does food services as a job ( delivery guy , I'm assuming). You can just ask him for his contact number. For me , no matter if I like the girl or don't , I'll give her my contact number just cause she asked.0
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