I met a man on Match and have been seeing him 1-2 a week for 2 months (he is downtown and I am 45min drive away). He has been very attentive, calling me as well as frequently texting me. Our chemistry is very good and we always have an amazing time together. He often makes a point daily to let me know how he feels "miss you" " can't wait to see you again" etc through texts and calls. Although we have only known each other for a very short period of time, so far it seems more personal than casual (sends me pictures of his kids etc). I had sex with him much earlier than I normally would 4th date as I felt comfortable with him. He has also taken me to a very big work function and I have been to his cottage. After our first date he had hid his profile, I assumed this was his way of showing that although obviously we were not exclusive, he was just going to focus on dating me and see where it went. I myself, although I had my profile active did not go on the dating site for over a month. On our first date I had made it clear to him that I was not a serial dater and preferred to just date one man at a time. He had said that he generally does the same thing, yet after visiting him at his cottage, I decided to go back on match and also hide my profile. When going back online I had found that he had just visited the site and most likely was active the entire time we were dating. Many things make me feel uncomfortable at this point. I have been intimate with this man on several occasions who may very well be sleeping with other women not to mention I was very disappointed to see that he was still online. Should I be worried, my fear is that I am being played. I just don't understand how someone would say the things he has and yet feel the need to check their profile multiple times a day. I was planning on approaching him this week to ask "Where things were going" How do I approach this situation? At this point r his actions a huge Red Flag... fyi he is divorced w 2 kids?
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Well... it depends on how you look at it. He probably shouldn't have done what he did. I know I wouldn't, but I'm inherently monogamous. Even the thought of more than one woman at a time would overwhelm me. But you weren't exclusive, which more or less gave him permission to play the field. A bit sneaky, to be sure, but technically legal by dating law. Makes me wonder what else he's hiding.0