Why would he think that?
Becoz I always talk about my ex to him
I see. So I gather he was a friend that you'd like to take to the next level? I wouldn't worry too much, unless you keep telling him how much you love your ex and wish you were back together. You didn't do that, did you?
oops yes I did when I was drunk.. and I told him I was kinda seeing my ex again, because I don't want to lie to him. At that time I was not sure who I wanted to be with, but after he began to ignore me, I know it was him whom I really really like. How can I let him know?
*facepalm* You'll have to show him, but you just made it a lot tougher on yourself to do it. It won't be as quick to fix as it was to get here. Actions go a long way, though. If it's him you want, break it off with your ex ASAP, if not sooner, and do *not* go back to him. Don't be surprised if this takes a little while. It can certainly be done, but you need to reestablish trust now.
I know. Now the problem is, I don't know how to ask him out to talk to him. It's already several weeks we didn't text and I began to text him several days ago, sometimes he replies sometimes not.. he is very polite and friendly when he replied my message tho.. what should I do to ask him out?
You're going to have to keep it something low key, like out for coffee or something like that. His guard will be up - but at least he's talking to you, and that's a good sign. Take things really slow, almost like starting over. I mean, you obviously know each other, so you can skip that. Let him do a good amount of talking so he can get out what he needs to. If that goes well, you can cautiously advance a little of your side - you'll have to explain your actions and why you said what you said. He needs to see hard proof you've changed.
yeah we know each other but not for a very long time but we liked each other a lot, and we've been slept together already. He told me he also wanted to take things seriously, but after what I told him he is prevent to see me. I would like to ask him out for a coffee, but I think he would refuse as well.. what can i tell him that wouldn't like him refuse me for a coffee?
Well, what does he like to do? Maybe he'd meet you at a park or the mall. Ideally, it'd be a location he's familiar with and feels safe in. Since you know him, you're more likely to know that than I am.
well yeah I think I know where to ask him to go.. but how should I send him the message?like "now I found out that I like you not my ex, can we go out for a coffee blabla"? I think he wouldn't like that.. becaues I've told him like that once..This is really tough
actually I already deleted all his messages and prepared to move on after he didn't want to see me again, but in these weeks I've been missing him so much and really not easy to give him up.. I really want to try again.. but I lost my courage and I don't know how to tell him how I feel anymore
Nonono... don't say that. Don't say anything about dating or liking him. Just tell him that you have some things you'd like his opinion on. That'll get the male curiosity fired up pretty quickly. He'll want to know what you have to say.
do you think he still likes me?
Ah, he wouldn't talk to you if he didn't at least like you as a friend. You kinda friend zoned yourself and now you have to crawl out of that.
Actually I don't know how to friend zone a person. I mean if I like somebody, I can't just be friend with him.. really can't.. I don't know for guys.. is it hard to get rid of that zone?
Depends on how far into it you are. Probably easier to get out with a guy than a girl, though. But like I mentioned, you're going to need to rebuild trust that was damaged. It's probably faster for guys, but still a step you don't want to skip.
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