I've been with my boyfriend for a year. He loves me. No doubt about it but he has a rocky past. He is attractive so he has been able to get women without providing them with the respect and honesty needed. He has changed A LOT since we've he and I met. I love him despite of his past. We've both had a lot of learning/growing/changing experiences. I recently found out that there are women from his part some who he was sexually active with that do not know he is in a relationship. He does not say that he is in a relationship, in love, happy. I've met his family, all his close friends (women and men) but it is these part crushes/flings that have no idea about his relationship with me. I'm so confused. What does this mean? Why does he do that? He does have image issues and like I said, it has been a journey for him since he's met me. He hasn't cheated on physically but I feel emotionally cheated on.
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Well, there's several plausible reasons behind this:
- The people you are referring to haven't asked him
- He feels rude telling others
- He wants to keep you away from his past for any given reason
- He despises his own past with these other people
- Possibly he's moved on and feels like that will change in speaking to them about you
In my humble opinion (IMHO), I advise you to speak with him about your trust issues in the relationship. Opening the door to communication will help alot. As you have noticed, this man hasn't cheated on you physically (which doesn't make everything else exempt); however, he is with you for a reason. That reason obviously means a lot to this man, because he has other potential dates at the ready.
If you really feel wronged in this situation, it's acceptable to be polite and decline the advancement of the relationship. Explain how you feel (not why you feel that way) and let him know that you would like to move on to other people. This won't be easy on either of you, but it would be the best thing to correct any wrongful feelings if they cannot be resolved.
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