(Please don't knock our beliefs)
We've admitted to having feelings for each other, but don't want to mess up each others callings. She's called to be a missionary and I'm not. We want to follow God but feel that for some reason He has let us get this far and don't know what to do?
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I'm not saying you two aren't meant to be together, but I do think you need to take a step back and try to look at the situation objectively. You say that God has "let" you get this far, but it's not like He's going to come down there and stop you. You still have your agency, and just because you haven't been struck down or haven't seen any signs telling you to stop, that doesn't mean what you're doing is okay.
Most of the other answerers counsel you both to pray about it, and I completely agree, but you do need to realize that no matter what, you're going to be biased. You can pray until your knees are sore, but if you really want to be with this girl, you might not be willing to listen if God tries to tell you it's not okay.
I think the best thing you can do is to talk to the girl's spiritual superiors. If you explain the situation to them and they agree with you, great, you've got your answer. On the other hand, if they tell you this isn't okay, then you'll have to accept that too. Keep in mind that these people are in touch with the same God you are, and if they feel that this isn't okay, listen to them. They have the benefit of both experience and objectivity, and they are obviously in their position because they are qualified and worthy. Listen to them. If this is truly something that is meant to happen, something that God accepts and endorses, it shouldn't be a secret, right? If it is meant to happen, the girl's superiors should be just as happy about you two as you are. On the other hand, if you're thinking about talking to her superiors and you're worried about what they'll say, you've already got an answer: if you are doing God's will, you will never feel guilty or afraid of the consequences. If you've had any feelings like that about your relationship with this girl, I think you have to break it off.0